Mind foundation for deal with children
Making a deal with your kid is a very challenging work, it is work from God, instead saying making the deal with your kid, I would rougher say it is making the deal with our own mind.
I always feel our children is the Angels from God and also the Angels in our family, what ever they do, is the part of joy in our life. even some time drive me crazy. kids are smart, and it is really smarter then us. if we did right to them, we could feel the reward from them, if we did not quite right, they will make even tougher situation to make us struggled. so from my experience, I learned as follow:
First: don't rush to deal the situation, stop and think first. what ever they did, is a reflection from us. for example: they are bad attitude, their careless, their lazy to do their work, they don't like exercise, they are too rush to give answer without thinking well...., yes if we think back, we might did the same way. when I see my 1st daughter yelling my younger son, I can reflect how my wife yelling my daughter. God just amazing, he need teach us lesson by setting up our kid to copy us, so we can see our own personality. once I get angry I through the book on the floor, couple of weeks later, when my son angry with sister, he through the book on the floor as well. so I understand, God not just ask us taking care of kids, but also mainly position kids for him to teach us how to be our self.
Second: we should think what ever our move is, it will lead our children toward an direction, good or bad for their personality. we use improper way to do, they well show us the improper result for us to deal even hard. so we have to control our emotion hard, it is like change an habit, very very hard, but we have to do.
Third: in order to train our kids smart, actually is training our self smarter. for example. my daughter's hand get hurt when she playing basket ball. as soon as her start crying, my wife start to say:" don't cry, don't cry, if you feel bad, we quite". I disagree about this reaction. it comes from love and care from mother's bottom of heart. but it will create habit for kids to quite anything feel harder for them.
Be careful on any of reaction we will do by slow down and think further the result will be. think it is a lesson God give us not to our kids. be honest and courage to improve our self instead only ask our kids do better.
Wish this blog can help any loving parents to be prepared to deal with their kids, and wish the most happiness full of every family with joy form God!
God bless every one!
